“Nobody wants to show you the hours and hours of becoming. 

They’d rather show you the highlight of what they’ve become.”

3 Main Messages:

1. Ultimately grit is more important than talent

2. In order to improve we need to ‘hungrily’ seek feedback!

3. The most successful people are altruistic and succeed due to a combination of purpose and pleasure

“Fortitude is the strength that we draw from feeling in close synchrony with those around us, from feeling part of something meaningful that is bigger than us.”

3 Main Messages:

1. Those who have experienced adversity are often more driven

2. We need community to drive us, inspire us and support us

3. The success of an individual is dependent on the team around them

“Once people understand what play does for them, they can learn to bring a sense of excitement and adventure back to their lives, make work an extension of their play lives, and engage fully with the world.”

3 Main Messages:

1. All mammals learn and grow through play.

2. Various forms of play are vital in reducing stress and maintaining brain health.

3. Parents, schools and employers have a responsibility to encourage play everyday.

“Great coaching is built on creating a relationship that feels safe for the client - not safe from challenge but safe enough to be challenged.”

3 Main Messages:

1. Coaches need to continue to build their practice and challenge their own thinking and assumptions.

2. Questions are key!

3. There are times when the laws of coaching require bending

“My dream is a movement with such deep trust that we move as a murmuration, the way groups of starlings billow, dive, spin, dance collectively through the air - to avoid predators, and, it also seems, to pass time in the most beautiful way possible.”

Main points:

1. We need to pay attention to the interconnected nature of the natural world and replicate this in societies and workplaces

2. By paying attention to how we behave on a small level, this will impact on a large level

3. It is time to start rethinking our systems

“We want to learn how the people around us see the world and help them understand our perspectives in turn” 

3 Main Messages:

1. Communicating is all about listening to what is being said and what is being left unsaid.

2. By asking more questions we build trust and understanding.

3. Communication is improved by slowing it down. 

“For a human being, the greatest unhappiness is not being able to like oneself” 

3 Main Messages:

1. The water in the well is always the same temperature, it just feels different because of outside conditions

2. We need to discard other people’s tasks

3. Healthy inferiority is comparison with one’s ideal self

“Only when we’re brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”

3 Main Messages:

1. We all cover shame with learned behaviour

2. Vulnerability is uncertainty, risk and emotional exposure

3. To be wholehearted is to have courage, compassion and connection

“Perhaps the most important thing we could do with our life and with our leadership was to listen to people so expertly, to give them attention so respectfully they would begin to think for themselves, clearly and afresh.”

3 Main Messages:

1. What we pay attention to grows.

2. Giving everyone a turn increases the intelligence of groups.

3. The quality of your attention determines the quality of other people’s thinking.

“Building a coaching habit will help you and your team reconnect to the work that not only has impact, but has meaning as well.” 

3 Main Messages:

1. Our advice is not as useful as we think it is

2. Simple questions will support others in self-development

3. There are 3 types of coaching: projects, people and patterns

“It is only when you start to identify what makes your culture different from others that you can begin to open a dialogue of sharing, learning, and ultimately understanding. ”

3 Main Messages:

1. We are often blind to our own cultural norms

2. Understanding each other is the key to narrowing cultural differences

3. Naming differences and developing core cultural agreements is crucial

“Not only is it harder for women to acquire leadership positions, but when they do achieve them, they struggle with issues like perfectionism, imposter syndrome, and a need to prove they are worthy of the opportunities.”

5 Main Messages:

1. Women need to build self awareness to increase strengths and learn from weaknesses

2. Women should learn to lean into their own authentic style of leadership

3. It takes courage to be a trailblazer

4. Connectedness helps build courage

5. Leaders need to be purpose-driven and resilient

“Routinely forgetting to accommodate the female body in design - whether medical, technological or architectural - has led to a world that is less hospitable and more dangerous for women to navigate. ”

3 Main Messages:

1. When men are making the decisions, they do not bring a woman’s perspective to the table

2. In many situations it is not that the data is being ignored - it simply doesn’t exist

3. What is frustrating in many countries is a death sentence for women in other places. 

“Sometimes all that’s needed to lift women is to stop pulling them down”

3 Main Messages:

1. To find out the real issues you need to talk to people and get to know them

2. A backward society is one where decisions for women are being made by men

3. Often the surface problem is underpinned by the REAL root problem

“Operating at the edge of your ability, where you make mistakes - makes you smarter”

3 Main Messages:

1. Deep practice involves slowing down and chunking skills

2. Huge success are born when a spark is lit inside by watching someone else setting an example

3. Great teachers car deeply about their students and adapt their techniques as appropriate

“Schools that believe children should get what they deserve respond to poor behaviour differently to schools that believe children should get what they need”

3 Main Messages:

1. Consistency of behaviour and expectations of individual teachers and across schools is necessary to create a safe space.

2. Children respond best to those who show that they genuinely care.

3. The old methods of punishment are outdated and damaging and we need to build restorative practices instead.

“The person sitting at the apex hierarchy is the genius maker, not the genius.”

3 Main Messages:

1. Multipliers build people up and increase intelligence and capacity in others

2. Diminishers act in self interest and think that “really intelligent people are a rare breed.”

3. Even well intentioned leaders can display Accidental Diminisher tendencies

“Habits, as much as memory and reason, are at the roots of how we behave.”

3 Main Messages:

1. Habits are built about the cue-routine-reward routine and can be controlled

2. By changing keystone habits you can change entire company culture

3. There is great power in small community groups

“Some psychologists now consider that general intelligence, curiosity and conscientiousness are together the ‘three pillars’ of academic success; if you lack any one of these you are going to suffer.”

3 Main Messages:

1. There is more than one way to measure intelligence.

2. We can improve learning by spacing lessons and encouraging desirable difficulty.

3. Great teams are built on dissent, not star players.

“We have to invite gratitude into our lives and we have to do it constantly and consistently.”

3 Main Messages:

1. Take responsibility and ownership for your failures as well as your successes

2. Don’t get bogged down with comparisons - water your own grass

3. Life is short, be intentional about how you spend your days