“We move better when we go beyond solving a puzzle to serving a person”

3 Main Messages:

1. Successful people need “flexible optimism - optimism with its eyes open.”

2. Schools “teach us how to answer, but not to ask.”

3. ‘Selling’ is serving others - and we all do it.

“We are formed by relationship, we are nourished by relationship, and we long for relationship. Life is not a solitary journey”

3 Main Messages:

1. We all need to find work that fulfils us, gives us joy and serves a communal purpose.

2. Connection is key - through marriage and community building

3. Happiness is temporary and feeling, while joyful people “glow with an inner light”

“The challenge is always to improve, to always get better, even when you are the best. Especially when you are the best.

3 Main Quotes:

1. “For the strength of the pack is the wolf, and the strength of the wolf is the pack.” - Rudyard Kipling 

2. “It’s better to have a thousand enemies outside the tent than one inside the tent” - Arab Proverb 

3. “The fight is won or lost far away from witnesses, …well before I dance under the lights.” - Muhammed Ali

“It is by consciously confronting the certainty of death, and what follows from the certainty of death, that we finally become more present in our lives.”

3 Main Messages:

1. We spend most of our privileged lives turning a blind eye to our mortality.

2. Society has us focusing on amassing experiential and economic wealth.

3. “These are the days, they always were” - Jack Moore

“Every day in itself is a gift and a blessing. It is all we ever have anyway, the moment we are in.”

3 Main Messages:

1. We often realise the important things about life when it is too late. 

2. There are different ways to measure wealth and many things which are more important than money, title and status

3. The most important things are relationships, with ourselves and with others. 

“It is time to begin the dismantling of the cult of busyness one person at a time. One heart at a time. One body at a time.”

3 Main Messages:

1. We have been brainwashed into believing that our value is attached to our productivity

2. Our bodies and brains are not designed for this current toxic culture of capitalism

3. We need to return to our bodies, our old ways and make time for rest.

“Great rewards will accrue to those who can take conceptual knowledge from one problem or domain and apply it in an entirely new one.”

3 Main Messages:

1. Diversity of thought and experience is crucial in all fields. 

2. We need to ensure we have a range of varied experiences, knowledge interactions and relationships.

3. With AI covering the simplest jobs it leaves creativity of thought open for humans to explore.

“I want women of color to successfully navigate the workforce as it currently exists, because if we sit back and wait for systems to change, we could be waiting forever.”

3 Main Messages:

1. Women of colour pay double minority tax and so need both system change and allies.

2. Connection and community are built both ways.

3. Equity and inclusion increase the bottom line and benefit everyone.

“We don’t start contributing once we become leaders. We become leaders because of how we contribute.”

3 Main Messages:

1. The most basic question is usually the most brilliant

2. Regret is much heavier than failure

3. Everything we dream of is on the other side of fear

“When you’re an adult, your life, happiness, health, healing, social life, friendships, boundaries, needs and success are all your responsibility.” 

3 Main Messages:

1. Worrying about the responses and emotions of others is pointless and limiting

2. The quality of our relationships will be better if we put ourselves first

3. This isn’t as selfish as it sounds. It’s liberating

“If you spend your whole life chasing that fleeting, temporary feeling of happiness, you will miss out on what you really want: fulfilment”

3 Main Messages:

1. We are all building our own house and each small act contributes to what we build

2. It is better to work hard and struggle in the dark than under the spotlight later

3. Mountains are meant to be climbed and life is meant to be lived

“A person who feels safe because of the reliable and empathetic presence of others will see the world as a wider, more open, and happier place.” 

3 Main Messages:

1. Listen with curiosity, not judgement to truly understand others

2. “We do not see things as they are, we see things as we are.”

3. To be wise is to know about life and this is learned through experiences, reflections, conversations and questions

“It’s not the events of our lives that stress us. It is the way we deal with them that does.” 

3 Main Messages:

1. We are not designed for an endless stream of negativity.

2. Our world has never been safer but our exposure to online bad news has skewed our perception. Most of life is okay!

3. What you pay attention to grows.

“All around us, all the time, women perform unrewarded work and we fail to notice”

3 Main Messages:

1. Non Promotable Tasks (NPTs) fall mainly to women and this either causes stress at work or at home and means women fall behind. 

2. We need to learn when and how to say no!

3. All organisations benefit when NPTs are equitably and thoroughly allocated

“Today’s leaders must be able to embrace complexity, grapple with ambiguity, and express authentic empathy.”

3 Main Messages:

1. We have a calling to live a life of purpose and inspiration, with strong and positive relationships.

2. Leaders need to shift from a mindset of executing (doing) to healing (being) and this requires inner work.

3. Through practice leaders can be the stillness that is needed in the storm in order that teams and institutions can manage and make the most of change.

“Investing in women had a multiplier effect on their families and achieved the most dramatic results for a nation's economic and public health outcomes.”

3 Main Messages:

1. There are many incredible female leaders whose stories should be shared and celebrated. 

2. As relative outsiders, women often succeed because they can see the forest, while those on the inside can only see the trees

3. To be successful is to be flexible, innovative, scrappy and thick-skinned

“Each tiny move toward a more positive mindset can send ripples of positivity through our organisations, our families and our communities. ”

3 Main Messages:

1. Being happy attracts success

2. We can intentionally plan for increased happiness

3. The ripple effect of positive energy impacts everyone

“Leadership is about empowering others to achieve greatness”

3 Main Messages:

1. Leadership is changing and those who empower others and build great teams exemplify humility, resilience, honesty and vulnerability.

2. “Clarity of vision is critical in order for everyone to aim for the same target.”

3. Believe in the best in people and build teams who believe in each other.

“To feel a sense of belonging is to feel accepted, to feel seen and to feel included by a group of people, believing that we fit in, trusting that we will be protected by them.”

3 Main Messages

1. The measure of our lives is the impact we have on others

2. When we feel that we belong we have more energy, focus and creativity

3. Clarity and alignment among teams is built in the stories we tell around the fire

“When we focus on our internal scoreboard, we embrace the reality that we are constantly becoming, never arriving.”

3 Main Messages:

1. Choose carefully who you surround yourself with and what information you are consuming daily as these will shape who you are and how you think.

2. By focusing on the process, rather than the end product, you will be aligned with your values and be both happier and more successful as a result.

3. Use your values to set a standard and then consistently live up to it.